Different games, different rules: why Americans and Japanese misunderstand each other

COVER PAGE; TITLE PAGE; COPYRIGHT PAGE; PREFACE; ACKNOWLEDGMENTS; CONTENTS; FOREWORD; A FEW NOTES ON THE TEXT; 1: Two Stories, Two Games; Strong Independence, Sweet Interdependence; Mind Your Own Business; Do as You Please!; Talking Guns, Stalking Swords; Different Playing Fields; 2: Communication Equipment; We Think, Therefore We Are; A Question of Timing; Basic and Optional Equipment; Verbs that Give Up; Close and Yet so Uneven; Order of Play; 3: Speak for Yourself, Listen to Others; Call Me Dave; Depends on Who; Just Say Yes; Have a Nice Day; Greetings of Action, Greetings of Care.

Basic Strategies For Players of Speaker TalkBasic Strategies For Players of Listener Talk; 4: Taking Care of Business; Business is Business, Business is Family; Customized versus Shared Work; Individual Choice, Group Ensemble; Team Stars, Borrowed Individuals; Promises: Words on Paper, Sounds in the Air; 5: Open for Business; Talk about Talk; Name Your Own Deal; And that's Just the Beginning; Silent Shifters; Home Strategies at Away Games; 6: Scoring Points; It's My Deal: Present, Past, and Future; It's Not Our Talk, It's an Example; Hanashi: Then there's Another Story.

You Don't Know What You're Talking About7: Support Network; The Rhythm of Talk; Different Rhythms; What's so Funny?; Taking Turns: The Ball Machine of Conversation; 8: The Truth about Teasing, Praising, and Repeating; What's in a Tease?; Praised to Death; Repeated and Parallel Truths; Mismatch; 9: Role Models: Working Man, Nurturing Mother; Mothers, Working Women, Housewives; Terms of Relationship; When Difference isn't Worse; When Difference is a Minority; Mothering Bosses; How it All Begins; 10: You Are What You Speak; In the Beginning; Becoming American, Staying Japanese; Mirror, Mirror.

Inside OutNOTES; REFERENCES; INDEX.